Every September, people across Australia ask each other a simple question: ‘R U OK?’ Australia’s annual R U OK? Day is a reminder to check in on the people around you, encourage open conversations about mental health and support your friends who may be struggling in silence.
This year, R U OK? Day falls on Thursday 11 September, and its theme is “I’m here to hear.” It’s not just about asking the question, but about listening with care and empathy when someone chooses to share what’s on their mind. For international students, who might face unique challenges while studying abroad, this reminder is especially important.
So what is R U OK day? And how can you support someone who needs it, or find support yourself? Let’s talk about it.
What is R U OK? Day?
R U OK? Day began in 2009 as a grassroots movement to encourage people to check in with one another and raise awareness of how everyday conversations can help make a difference.
The goal is to remind people that they don’t need to be an expert to support someone who’s having a hard time. Instead, what matters is reaching out, asking if someone is okay, listening without judgment and offering to help find support if needed.
The 2025 theme: ‘I’m Here to Hear’
This year’s theme highlights the importance of listening with intent. It’s one thing to ask “R U OK?”, but another to truly be present and supportive when someone opens up. The theme encourages us to slow down, pay attention and show genuine interest when someone tells us about what they’re going through.
Being ‘here to hear’ means:
- Putting away distractions (like your phone) when having a conversation
- Letting the other person talk without interrupting or rushing them
- Showing empathy and understanding, even if you can’t “fix” the problem
- Following up later to show you truly care
For international students, this theme is especially powerful. Being far from home, away from close friends and family, can sometimes make it harder to open up. But having someone who is ready to listen, whether it’s a friend, housemate or tutor, can make all the difference.
What this means for international students
Research has shown that while nine in ten Australians feel supported when asked if they are okay, international students often report worse mental health outcomes than domestic peers. This includes higher levels of anxiety and a greater likelihood of experiencing multiple mental health challenges.
“This year’s R U OK? Day theme, ‘I’m here to hear,’ is about listening with intent and following up with action,” says Workplace Options (WPO) CEO Alan King. “But how can we expect people to speak up if their support systems are not accessible? We must provide care that empowers everyone, including international students and dispersed workers who often face high stress, cultural isolation, and limited access to help, all while being far from home.”
Many international students may not seek professional help straight away if they need it, which makes support from friends and classmates especially valuable. Taking the time to ask a friend how they are really feeling, and listening to their answer, can be the first step towards reducing feelings of stress or isolation. Even small check-ins, like noticing when someone seems quiet in class or inviting them to join you for lunch, can show that you care and help them feel more connected.
Finding support as an international student
If you’re studying in Australia, you’re not alone, and help is available. Here are some places to start:
University support services
Most Australian universities offer free or low-cost counselling, wellbeing programs, and peer support networks. These services are confidential and often include staff experienced in supporting international students.
R U OK? resources
The R U OK? website has practical tips on how to ask the question, how to listen, and what to do if someone isn’t okay.
Community support
Organisations such as headspace, Beyond Blue and Lifeline provide free, confidential mental health support, including phone and online chat services.
Student groups and societies
Getting involved in campus clubs or cultural associations can reduce feelings of isolation and help you build a strong social support network.
It’s time to ask – R U OK?
For international students, studying abroad can be exciting but also overwhelming. Being far from your home and support system means that hearing someone ask “R U OK?” can make a world of difference.
This R U OK? Day, take the time to check in with your friends, classmates and colleagues. Remember, you don’t have to have all the answers. It’s about showing up, listening with care and reminding others that they don’t have to face their challenges alone.
